Have you ever thought about the word “Hope”?  I decided to look it up and get the dictionary’s meaning of Hope.  Hope is a feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen.  A feeling of trust.  Also as a verb it means to want something to happen.  We all need hope.

What are you hoping for?  For me, I’m hoping winter will soon be behind us and for a sunny spring to arrive “tonow” (My granddaughter Esther’s favorite saying when she wants something today, not tomorrow).  I am also hoping to have my chronic pain subside after my dental implants heal and I eventually will be able to chew with no pain.

We all have things we actively or passively hope for.  Some things are more important than others.  Hopeful for things to come; some things are short lived and temporal and truly aren’t too significant in the light of eternity.

Regardless of our circumstances now on earth, the Bible tells us where we can find eternal, CERTAIN HOPE.  Hope based on eternity, not on things of this world.   This world is temporal.  1 John 2:17 “The world and its desires pass away, but whoever does the will of God lives forever.”

The Bible is clear in whom our hope needs to be placed.  Through faith in Jesus Christ, God’s one and only Son.  He is our Hope, not only on this earth but our hope, OUR CERTAIN HOPE, for eternity.

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Not ToNight, not ToMorrow, ToNow!!!

Our sweet two year old granddaughter, Esther, coined a new word.  It’s now part of my vocabulary.  When she doesn’t want to wait for something, she will say ToNow.  She doesn’t want to wait for ToNight or ToMorrow, she wants it ToNow!!  Her innocent childlikeness makes me smile.  I can so relate.  If we are honest, don’t we want everything ToNow?

Technology is such that ToNow is becoming more expected in this world we live in.  With voice command on Echo you can tell Alexa what song to play and how loud to play it.  Drones can deliver meals or packages to our doorsteps.  Robots are beginning to take the place of baristas, making our expressos and lattes faster than ever before.

Waiting is a part of life but can feel like a waste of time.  We wait in grocery lines, post office lines, stop lights, lines for our expressos and lattes.  Without a Disneyland fast pass, you may wait an hour or two to go on a ride that lasts a few minutes.

Some waiting is exciting and hopeful: anticipating a baby or a grandchild to be born, a vacation you’ve been planning, to get together with family you love, or waiting for winter to be over and spring to arrive.

Waiting can be stressful and not always pleasant.   Like lingering in a waiting room at a doctor’s office, a surgery waiting room, or waiting for another procedure in the dreaded dental chair.

Some situations you are waiting in may be life altering:  Awaiting results from a pregnancy test, a loved ones cancer diagnosis or a job interview.

I used to hate to wait!  Like Esther, I’m a ToNow kind of girl.  God is teaching me to be more patient.  I’m learning to listen to His Spirit while waiting.  I’m learning to be present in that moment, not wishing or waiting for it to be over.  I am learning to rest in God’s waiting room.

Are you praying about something that you want God’s answer ToNow?   Be confident, God loves you. He is sovereign and knows the reason for making you wait to answer your prayer.  What will you do while waiting?  Look to Jesus and be encouraged.  Psalm 27:14 “Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.”

Lamentations 3:22 “Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for His compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness, I say to myself, ‘The Lord is my portion; therefore I will wait for Him’.”

James 5:7 “Be patient, then brothers, until the Lord’s coming.  See how the farmer waits for the land to yield its valuable crop and how patient he is for the autumn and spring rains.  You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near.”

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Expect A Letdown When High Expectations Go Unmet

Pappa and Hannah

Please feel free to sing along to my version of “Oh Christmas Tree”

  • Oh Christmas time, oh Christmas time, how lovely through the years
  • Oh Christmas time, oh Christmas time, why then all the tears
  • Each year expectations are so high, when they go unmet we often cry
  • Oh Christmas time, oh Christmas time, the card is maxed I fear
  • Oh New Years time, oh New Years time, we promise to start anew
  • Oh New Years time, oh New Years time, but our plans do go askew
  • Our expectations are so high, but the bathroom scale does not lie
  • Oh New Years time, oh New Years time, I think I’ll hide the mirrors
  • Each year we feel the need to vent, about our winters of discontent
  • Oh Christmas time, oh Christmas time I’ll give you my two-cents

Oh how we set ourselves up for discontentment with our high expectations.

After Thanksgiving I love listening to Christmas songs on the radio.  Mostly because of how they make me feel.  Because it rarely snows on Christmas in the Pacific Northwest, listening to people sing about a winter wonderland, talking snowmen, overachieving reindeer and a partridge in a pear tree (things I would never think about any other time of year) causes a wave of nostalgia to wash over me.

Just this past fall, I was already looking forward to Christmas.  My son Michael, his wife Signe, and their two small children were coming home for Christmas (Christmas day evening to be exact).  They live in Chandler, Arizona and make it home for Christmas every other year.  Also coming home from Florida, the Wednesday after Christmas, was my oldest daughter Katie and her youngest out of five children.

Needless to say, both Karen and I were very excited to have all our children and six out of 10 grandchildren home for the holidays.  Four or five years had passed since the last time our three children were under one roof together celebrating Christmas.  It would be a time stay up late reminiscing about Christmas’s past.

But then came the winter of my contentment.  One by one, a series of trials and afflictions met me head on.  It all started on September 25th with me having a mini-stroke, losing my job for a year because of my stroke, having two heart surgeries and a third surgery resulting from an accidental puncturing of an artery which led to a hematoma in my right hand and forearm.  (For the whole story of this Job-like experience, see my last article)  http://desiretoinspire.life/dear-job-we-have-a-few-things-in-common-suffering/

So for the first four days Michael and his family are home, I’m sleeping twelve to sixteen hours a day.  When I was awake I felt ten seconds behind every conversation with all the pain pills I was taking.  Because my arm was sliced open like a carved turkey, I couldn’t pick up and hold two-year-old Esther.  That broke my heart.  Michael did put 3 month old Daniel on my lap.  I didn’t hold him for long though.  He not only is a cute, butterball of love but he’s built like a Butterball turkey and I was scared to death I’d drop him.

Karen and Michael would take Esther for walks to look at the neighborhood cow and horse while I slept on the couch.  While the rest of the family had the kind of in-depth conversations I enjoy, I would fall asleep on the couch.   I love to take pictures but I couldn’t hold onto the camera.

I was beginning to feel depressed even though the thing I wanted most this holiday  (my three children all home together for Christmas) had come true.

Our family loves to play games.  I was not about to miss out on that time together.  One night five of us were playing Settlers of Catan…a game where you need to think and communicate well.  I’m a pretty competitive guy and my daughter Jaymi is the undisputed champion of this game.  I started fast and thought for sure, despite having a distinct disadvantage of being under the influence of a drug induced coma, I was going to win.  But in the end I messed up by making a few mistakes with strategy and not only didn’t win but came in tied for last.

I blamed the loss on being high on drugs and told my son-in-law Matt that the winner had to put the game away.  I walked into the living room, sunk into my couch and sulked.  My Christmas wasn’t supposed to go down this way.  I desired to squeeze out and drink up every ounce of family time I could.  Instead the drugs and fatigue were draining every ounce of energy I had.

I felt cheated.  The best conversation I had with Michael came on the eighty-minute drive back to Sea-Tac airport.  My head was finally clear.  I had quit taking the pain pills the day before, not because I didn’t need them, but because I was so constipated.   If anyone poked my belly button I would explode.

After saying good-by to Michael and his family, Karen got behind the wheel for the long drive home.  As we pulled away from the airport, I began to cry; partly from the pangs of constipation but mostly because of unmet expectations.  Karen said that Michael understood my situation and reminded me that we still had Katie and our granddaughter Hannah home for another few days.  I still had time to enjoy them while they were home.

Why do we do this to ourselves?  Don’t feel too bad though.  Even the wisest and maybe wealthiest man to have ever lived struggled with feelings of discontentment. 

Solomon was King David’s son from Bathsheba.  When he became king of the nation of Israel, God found favor with Solomon because of the king’s love for him.  God told Solomon, “…Ask for whatever you want me to give to you.” 1 Kings 3:5

Solomon humbly asked for, “…a discerning heart to govern your (God’s) people and to distinguish between right and wrong.”  1 Kings 3:9

God was so pleased with Solomon’s request that he gave him the things (wealth and a long life) he did not ask for along with wisdom.  Solomon’s life was filled with many great accomplishments:

  1. “It was during his reign that the kingdom gained its highest splendor. Solomon was renowned throughout the ancient world of his time for his wisdom, his wealth and his extensive political and commercial alliances with the nations in the region. It was he who built the First Temple of Jerusalem, thus establishing the city not only as the political capital of the kingdom but also as the religious center of the People of Israel.”                Excerpt taken from http://www.kingsolomonlegend.com/King-Solomon-Great-Construction-Achievements.html
  2. “The royal palace of Solomon took twice as long to build as the Temple, and was much more complicated. In fact, it was a whole complex of buildings, with many different functions. According to the Bible, our only source of information, there was:
    • The Queen of Sheba visits King Solomon in Jerusalem, Sir Lawrence Tadema, detail of architecturethe cedar-pillared House of the Forest of Lebanon, perhaps an audience hall
    • a treasury or strongroom
    • the Judgement Hall where Solomon’s magnificent ivory throne stood
    • a special palace for the daughter of Pharaoh, Solomon’s most high-born wife
    • living quarters for Solomon’s multitude of wives and children. Though the ‘thousand wives of Solomon’ is probably an exaggeration, there were certainly many of them. Solomon cemented alliances with neighboring territories by marrying their rulers’ daughters, and by giving his own daughters in marriage to governors of provinces.”          Excerpt taken from  http://www.womeninthebible.net/bible-archaeology/solomons-palace/
  3. Finally in Solomon lists all the ways in which he strove to find fulfillment in his life.  In Ecclesiastes 2 he says, “…I tried to find fulfillment by inaugurating a great public works program…next I bought slaves, both men and women…I also bred great herds and flocks…I collected silver and gold as taxes from many kings and provinces…In the cultural arts, I organized men’s and women’s choirs and orchestras…and then there were the many beautiful concubines…Anything I wanted, I took, and did not restrain myself from any joy….But as I looked at everything I had tried, it was all so useless, a chasing of the wind and there was nothing really worthwhile anywhere.”

In his youth Solomon loved God.  But throughout his rule as King, he began to turn his focus on other things.  At the time of writing Ecclesiastes, he is an older man reflecting back on his life with what I believe is regret.  During his reign, Solomon constantly strived in vein for what would make him happy.  Instead of happiness he found discontentment.  So what was missing?

He soon forgot to look up to heaven to rediscover his true joy.  In the conclusion to his book he acknowledges the folly of his ways.  In chapter 12 of Ecclesiastes he states the following:

“Don’t let the excitement of being young cause you to forget about your Creator.  Honor him in your youth before the evil years come – when you’ll no longer enjoy living….Here is my final conclusion:  fear God and obey his commandments, for this is the entire duty of man.”

Wait a minute!  I’ve heard that God = Love.  How do we reconcile the phrase ‘fear God’ into the equation? 

While at the Woodland Park Zoo in Seattle, I have no fear toward any of the animals while enjoying them from the safety of the walking trail.  I will wet my pants if I ever find myself in the same cage as a tiger.  I know what they are capable of, especially if hungry or provoked.

Most of the world doesn’t fear God because they either view Him from afar or don’t consider Him at all.  Christians who understand the nature of God fear (respect, have reverence for) Him because that fear helps to prevent us from giving in to our sinful desires.

Now a tiger can no more love me than share a steak dinner with me.  Actually, I am the steak dinner.  God, on the other hand, loves us so much that, “… he gave his only Son so that anyone who believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”  John 3:16

This past Monday I was having another pity party.  My hand hurt, my arm full of stitches was itching like crazy, I felt 100 years old just walking up our stairs, and we received a letter from the insurance company questioning one of the surgical procedures.  Then my daughter Jaymi called and wondered if Karen and I wanted to go for a walk out at her house on Camano Island.  We did go even though I wasn’t convinced I was up to it.  I can’t tell you the joy I felt just being around my daughter and her three kids.  When we left their home I felt 100% better.

Was it just being around my family which made all the difference?  Maybe some but not all of it.  It was what I did on the way to their house which paved the way for an attitude adjustment.  I prayed that God would help me change my perspective on today’s circumstances.  I thanked God for my family and thanked him that I was well enough to enjoy this day with them.  That was it but it changed everything.

“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything; tell God your needs and don’t forget to thank him for his answers.  If you do this you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand.  His peace will keep your thoughts and your hearts quiet and at rest as you trust in Christ Jesus.”

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How To Make Parenting Preschoolers a Top Priority In Your Life


Papa and Caleb
Papa and Caleb

A few years ago, I woke up one frigid morning with a very sore back.  I called my chiropractor and, to my surprise, got his last opening for the day.  The only problem was that the appointment was in ten minutes and his clinic was twenty-minutes away.

I hobbled down twelve, slippery stairs, skated to my car, squeezed inside and started the engine.  Then I noticed that I couldn’t see out my frozen windshield.  By the time I unsuccessfully searched for the ice scraper, the heater had produced a fist-sized hole to peer through.  I shoved the car into gear and let out the clutch.  I lurched ahead and ran smack dab into the basketball pole cemented into the side of our driveway, shattering the flimsy plastic grill and pushing the wheel well into my front left tire.

Many things in life, if rushed, can end badly.

  1. Eating ice cream too fast will result in brain freeze.
  2. Speeding through your driving test will find you riding shotgun for a while longer.
  3. Taking on your teenage grandson in a footrace can land you in the ER.
  4. Telling your hair-stylist you are in a hurry will give you a bad hair day, most likely for many days to come.
  5. Rushing to conclusions can result in either egg on face or foot in mouth disease.
  6. And rushing your toddler through the terrible twos.

Depending on the child, the terrible twos can stretch into the terrible threes, fours and fives.  So what’s so bad about this age?  What has led parents to bestow upon it the nickname “terrible”?

In their book Raising Great Kids, Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend said, “One parent described adolescence as the terrible two’s all over again, but this time in a bigger body.  We personally don’t see either time period as “terrible,” but each one can be a time full of difficulty if you don’t recognize the important stage of independence, separateness and autonomy that a child is going through.  In the “twos,” toddlers are moving away from the early dependency of infancy.

In his book Parenting Isn’t For Cowards, James Dobson specifically discusses the challenges of raising children.  In the following excerpt, he tells a story about a strong-willed, three-year old neighbor.

“In the early 1970’s I had the privilege of living near one of these little spitfires.  He was thirty-six months old at the time and had already bewildered and overwhelmed his mother.  The contest of wills was over.  He had won it.  His sassy talk was legendary in the neighborhood, not only to his mother but to anyone who got in his way.  Then one day my wife saw him ride his tricycle down the driveway and into the street, which panicked his mother.  We lived on a curve and the cars came around that bend at high-speed.  Mom rushed out of the house and caught up with her son as he pedaled down the street.  She took hold of his handlebars to redirect him, and he came unglued.

‘Get your dirty hands off my tricycle!’ he screamed.  His eyes were squinted in fury.  As Shirley (Dr. Dobson’s wife) watched in disbelief, this woman did as she was told. The life of her child was in danger, and yet this mother did not have the courage to confront him.  He continued to ride down the street and she could only stand and watch.

How could it be that a tiny little boy at three-years of age could buffalo this thirty-year-old mother in this way?  Well, it was clear to any observer that she had no idea how to manage him.”

I acknowledge the above case is extreme, but how do we best manage our preschoolers?  As crazy as it seems, this is the age when you begin the process of teaching your children to live on their own.  Parenting is the only relationship where we prepare the recipient of this special connectedness to leave the relationship as they know it.  This is a command from God.

“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”  Ephesians 5:31

While this might be the last thing on the minds of parents with toddlers, couples (or single parents) need to begin this process of separation early.  Otherwise they may find themselves buffaloed like the mother of that foul-mouthed three-year-old.  And if not corrected, that three-year-old will grown into a disrespectful, irresponsible, and unloving adult.

As with the rest of my articles on becoming a hero to your children, much of what they learn is through observing your behavior, attitudes and actions.  Before they begin to attend school is the age where you have the most influence on them.  This is the age when the cement for a solid foundation of character development is poured.  Drs. Townsend and Cloud list six main attributes of character building.  After each attribute I will give an explanation defining each term:

  1. Attachment:  The ability to form positive relationships.  Your children will watch how you interact with your friends, your spouse, with them and with God.  Are you kind?  Do you show empathy toward others?  Are you patient?  Are you happy around the people in your life?  These are the things your preschoolers are observing.
  2. Responsibility:  Parents bear the responsibility for their children’s basic needs.  Parents are also responsible to help shape their character.  It will be shaped, either positively or negatively.  You can only “help to shape” their character though.  Children are born with a mind of their own.  As the toddler slams the door on the infant stage, they let you know they are now in control.  This is where parents “help shape” their character by beginning to teach them that there are rules to follow, not only in your home but in the world they are just discovering for themselves.  They need to learn that if they break a rule there are consequences.  Again, they learn this by observation and also by experience.
  3. Reality:  This is where your child learns that the world doesn’t revolve around him or her.  Preschoolers also begin to experience pain not caused by a rumbling tummy or an earache.  He will experience pain affiliated with disobedience, the frustration that comes with learning new things, sharing, correction, and discovering that adults aren’t always right or even kind at times.
  4. Competence:  As parents, it is our job to give our toddlers a wide variety of learning opportunities.  On the following Australian parenting website, It is universally accepted and explained that “In the first five years of life, your child’s brain develops more and faster than at any other time in his life. The early experiences your child has – the things he sees, hears, touches, smells and tastes – stimulate his brain, creating millions of connections. This is when foundations for learning, health and behaviour throughout life are laid down.”                    http://raisingchildren.net.au/articles/child_development.html  
  5. Conscience:  Children aren’t born knowing right from wrong…they are sinners from birth…it’s hardwired into their inner being.  Psalm 51:5 “Surely I was sinful at birth, sinful from the time my mother conceived in me.”                                                                                                 Pastor and Author, John MacArthur describes it this way.  “The conscience is a built-in warning system that signals us when something we have done is wrong.  The conscience is to our souls what pain sensors are to our bodies; it inflicts distress, in the form of guilt, whenever we violate what our hearts tell us is right.”  So how do our children develop a Godly value system to serve as a compass for our conscience?  You guessed it…it is by what is taught and more importantly what they observe, primarily from their parents.
  6. Worship:  Preschoolers are sponges soaking up everything around them.  You may have noticed this when a naughty word, which slipped out of your mouth, was proudly repeated to Grandma by your preschooler.  Use this time to also help develop an awareness of God to them.  Include God in every aspect of conversation you have while showing your child God’s wonderful creation.  Deuteronomy 11:19 says, “Teach them (God’s words) to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”

As parents and grandparents, God has entrusted you as stewards of one of His most precious gifts…the gift of a new life to raise for Him.  This relationship is filled with many challenges but also offers opportunities unlike any other relationship you will ever have.

  1. You are a lighthouse, warning your children and grandchildren of the many perils they will encounter as they sail along life’s seas.
  2. You are their shepherd, supplying all their needs.
  3. You are their general contractor,  responsible for the construction of their lives. You provide the material, labor and equipment needed to see the job through until completion.
  4. You are their guidance counselor, making sure they stay on track.
  5. You are their hero…their role model.  The best role model you can be is when your child looks at you and sees Jesus modeled through you.

Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us….”  Ephesians 5: 1-2

So just as a person doesn’t want to rush into marriage, rush the nurse inserting a needle into your arm, or rush to the gym after a big meal, let’s not rush our children through the early years.  Take time to nurture this unique relationship.  Rushing your preschooler through this critical time of inserting your morals and values could leave a scar.  They need time to properly digest every new morsel of information they receive.

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When Is The Last Time You Looked At Your Heart?

.dsc_1180mud puddle girlWhen is the last time you looked at your heart?   The heart is an amazing muscle.  It works non-stop.  If you read Terry’s blog last week, he talked about having surgery to repair a hole in his heart.  His surgery went well and we are so thankful.  If you prayed for us, THANK YOU!

For some reason, I’ve been thinking a lot about hearts this week…I wonder why.  I was by Terry’s side and witnessed what the latest technology, teamed with a great cardiologist can do.   What would have been an open heart surgery just a few years ago, was now a serious, yet much less invasive procedure that took a little over an hour and involved a one night stay.

I was with Terry when the ultrasound technician made sure the surgery was successful.  While watching the ultrasound screen, I jokingly said, “There I am and I see all of the grandkids in your heart!”  The technician laughed and said that was the first time he had ever heard someone say that.  He said, he usually hears something like “Wow, he really does have a heart!” I said, “Oh, that’s mean.”  He agreed.

I viewed Terry’s heart beating repeatedly.  The technician said that it’s the one muscle that continually works throughout one’s whole life until the day you die.  Wow!  He said around 20% of people are born with holes in their hearts and don’t know it until something goes wrong.  I don’t know about you, but I hadn’t thought much about my heart and all it does for me.  Even though I didn’t have a clue what I was looking at, it was fascinating.  The heart is a big deal!

Just as our physical hearts are a big deal, so is the heart of our soul.   I looked up “hearts” in the Bible.  I challenge you to do the same sometime.   Below are just a few:

Proverbs 27:19  “As water reflects a face, so a man’s heart reflects the man.”

Proverbs 4:23  “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.”

1 Samuel 12:24  “But be sure to fear the Lord and serve Him faithfully with all your heart; consider what great things He has done for you.”

Psalm 37:3  “Trust in the Lord and do good, dwell in the land and enjoy safe pastures.  Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.”

Matthew 6:19 “Do not store up for yourselves treasure on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal.  But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy and where thieves do not break in and steal.  For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”

And in part (my favorite Psalm 139) 13-18, 23-24  “For you created my inmost being, you knit me together in my mother’s womb.  I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.  My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body.  All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be…Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts.  See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.”

As I was viewing Terry’s heart, I stood in awe of our Lord Jesus who created us and whom loves us unconditionally.  He doesn’t need an ultrasound to view our hearts.  He sees and knows all. Hebrews 4:13 says, “Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight. Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of Him to whom we must give account.”

Terry’s doctor recommended a heart healthy diet for Terry, which includes exercise, sufficient rest, less sweets, limiting his fat intake and adding more fruits, vegetables and protein.  It will only be as effective as we follow what the doctor says to do.

Just as Terry and I are learning to implement some heart healthy habits for our physical hearts, we are also learning to apply some “heart” healthy habits in our spiritual lives.   The Bible tells us that our hearts are all sick and need a Savior, Jesus Christ.  Without Him, we can do nothing.  Revelation 3:20 says, “Here I am! I stand at the door and knock.  If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with him and he with me.”

Terry and I are learning to trust Him, rest in Him, studying and reading His Word, praying together and individually, guarding our hearts from unhealthy temptations and exercising our faith by sharing it with others.

Psalm 119:11 says,  “I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.”

What heart healthy habits do you follow?  What about for your “spiritual heart”?  I’d love to hear from you.

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The Story Behind “Trust Me, My Child”


mud puddle girl


We live in Washington, “The Evergreen State”.  There is a reason it’s so green–we get a lot of rain.  When the kids were young, I would often bundle them up and take them out for a walk right after it quit raining.  The air was so fresh and it felt good to go out and take a walk.  But the best thing about those walks were the mud puddles.

We live in the country on a dead end road with farmland around us.  We had mud puddles in our driveway and mud puddles down our road.   The bigger the better.  I’d put the kid’s boots on them and they loved to jump and play in the puddles.

One day, I was outside with Katie and Jaymi and they were enjoying the mud puddle they were playing in.  But I noticed an even bigger puddle down the road from us.  So I told them to walk with me to the next puddle.  Jaymi didn’t see the bigger puddle–she was having too much fun where she was.  She began to cry and resisted taking my hand to the bigger puddle.

I eventually convinced her to come with me and Katie.  She was not happy about it until she got to the bigger puddle.  Once she saw it, she was happy again.

I didn’t think much about that incident until a few months went by.   I had been battling reoccurring sinus infections and my doctor prescribed a very strong antibiotic for me.   A couple of weeks into it, I found out I was pregnant.   I called and spoke with a nurse practitioner and asked her if it was ok to be on the antibiotic while pregnant.  She returned my call and confirmed that there was a high probability of my baby having birth defects due to the medication I was on.

After I hung up the phone, I went into my bedroom and cried.   I prayed and asked the Lord for a healthy child and I felt Him telling me to trust Him.  I asked Him, “How can I trust you down the road for eight more months without knowing if the baby is ok or not?”

Then the Holy Spirit brought to mind the one particular rainy day when my daughters and I were walking outside.  Jaymi was playing in the little mud puddle while I saw the bigger one she would enjoy.  Just as I could see what was down the road for Jaymi, the Lord asked me to take His Hand and trust Him as He led me down the road for eight months of uncertainty.  His grace would be sufficient if my baby was born with birth defects or not.  He loved me, and He knew what was best.  At that time, I wrote my poem and now book, “Trust Me, My Child”.

If you know of someone who is going through a tough time and the future is uncertain, “Trust Me, My Child”  will encourage them.   Jesus often used word pictures in His teachings that His disciples could relate to.   This book is a word picture that can get tucked away in every child’s heart.  An audio book download is included in the back of every book.  My grandkids love it because when you are to turn the page, you can hear a mud puddle splash.  I love it, too!

“Trust Me, My Child” is available on Amazon and would make a great gift.  Maybe just throw in a pair of rubber boots along with it!

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How To Make Parenting A Top Priority In Your Life…Part 1

Ama rocking Joshua
Ama rocking Joshua
Papa and Hannah
Papa and Hannah

I hope you all had a wonderful day last Thursday.  I hope you were with friends and family, eating a tasty meal, and finding many things to be thankful for.  If you read my Thanksgiving blog post, you probably know that family and friends are high on my “thankful for” list.  God is at the top of that list with my family close behind.

For the past few weeks, I’ve shared how important it is for mothers and fathers to make parenting a top priority in their lives; those who desire to be a hero to their children:         http://desiretoinspire.life/attitudeparental-job-description/   http://desiretoinspire.life/parental-heart-divided-priority/

Did you know though, that a mom or dad can truly believe they make parenting a top priority in their lives but can still not provide what’s best?  How can a parent “miss the mark” when they make it a top priority?  Well, it depends on the perspective of who is answering this question.

Today, I’m going to address this question from the perspective of parents with infants who want to be great parents.  In next weeks blog post I’ll cover this topic from the perspective of parents with elementary school aged children.

For the above mentioned mothers and fathers, we know their perspective; they believe they are doing what is necessary to make their children their top priority:

  1. The parents decide to bottle feed so both the mother and father can bond with their baby.
  2. They buy only the most expensive diapers on the market.  Those provide the greatest comfort for their baby when they can’t change her right away.
  3. It isn’t realistic to be expected to hold their baby every time he fusses.  These parents provide a pacifier so their infant won’t wear himself out crying.
  4. They provide their child with plenty of brain stimulation by letting her watch educational shows such as Baby Einstein and Sesame Street.
  5. The parents sing and talk often to their baby.

So from accomplishing even most of the things on this list, can a parent feel assured that he or she is making their children a top priority?  What if you asked their child?  What would he or she say?

Infants, of course, won’t be able to voice their opinion on this topic…or can they?  Babies are experts at expressing their needs.  Every time they cry and every time they coo and smile, they are letting you know how they feel.

Every baby is an individual.  As they grow, each will develop their unique personalities based on genetic and environmental factors.  The genetic factors are out of a parent’s control.  Parents though can have a very big impact on many of the environmental factors which play a pivotal role in their infants development.

While everything on the above list is good, the biggest positive impact a parent can have on their child’s early development is through the act of physical contact and by providing plenty of it.  There have been countless studies on the effect of human touch with infants.

Dr. Allen Green, is a prominent pediatrician, who has authored two books on the care of infants and has appeared on various nationally syndicated programs such as: the TODAY Show, Good Morning America, and the Dr. Oz Show.  In an article he wrote titled: Touch is as Important to Infant Health as Eating and Sleeping, he says, “Still question whether touch is as important as eating and sleeping? Consider one more landmark study.

In the 1960s, Dr. Harry Harlow separated infant monkeys from their mothers at six to twelve hours after birth and substituted “surrogate” mothers made either of heavy wire mesh or of wood covered with cloth. Both mothers were the same size, but the wire mother had no soft surfaces and was equipped with a bottle from which the baby could “nurse” while the other mother was cuddly, covered with foam rubber and soft terry cloth, but had no food. Despite the fact that only one surrogate mother could feed them, the infants still spent more time cuddling with the cloth mother. (They also found that the monkeys“raised” by wire mesh moms were very aggressive as adults.) These results led researchers to believe closeness and affection are as imperative to healthy development as food.

In today’s busy world, it’s all-too-common for parents to give a child a pacifier or put them in front of a video screen to keep them calm and quiet. But, those convenient moments of calm may be having subtle impacts on your child’s development. Take time to slow down. Take time to touch. Take time to cuddle. They aren’t babies for long and your investment of time and touch is a priceless investment in their health and well-being.”

You can read his entire article at: http://www.drgreene.com/touch-is-as-important-to-infant-health-as-eating-and-sleeping/

While there are many positive things you can do for your infant, don’t underestimate the act which will provide the biggest impact on the development of your child or grandchild…physical touch and better yet skin to skin contact.  Your children may not be able to say, “Thank you,” yet, but because of the loving contact you give them now and throughout their lives, they will have plenty of time to say “Thank you” for the rest of your life.

There’s nothing so rewarding and peaceful than rocking a baby to sleep.

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BECAUSE GOD SAID “You Are Very Special”

15211534_10211145688382816_1206554459_nmud puddle girlThanksgiving is behind us and Christmas is around the corner.  Terry and  I (DESIRE TO INSPIRE) are eager to participate in this year’s 4th Annual Holiday Craft & Gift Fair.  It will be on Saturday, December 3, at the Stanwood Middle School from 10-4pm.

If you are able to drop by, please come up and say hello.  We will be selling our books, Chews Jesus mugs, remember rocks and selling some treats for the holidays.

Terry has been exploring his creative side and I am truly impressed.  He has been busy painting remember rocks and making some sweet treats.   Consequently, 0ur home looks like the North Pole after a hurricane hit it, but let’s call it “Creative Clutter”!

Today I’m sharing with you the story behind my book, BECAUSE GOD SAID “You Are Very Special“:

Our oldest daughter, Katie and her husband, Jason, and family were called to their first church as pastor.  The church was nearby in the town of Mount Vernon, Washington.  Terry and I wanted to be supportive of them, so we attended Jason’s first Sunday as pastor.  He preached from Genesis 1…the story of Creation.

As Jason was preaching, I became aware of how powerful God’s Word is;  God spoke and it was so.  As I was listening, I became burdened to share with children the truth of God’s Word.   What a changed world we would have if every child knew (really knew) the truth of God’s Word.  If they knew deep in their soul they were intimately loved and known by their Creator, the Lord Jesus Christ.

I went home from that sermon and began to write from Genesis 1 and Psalm 139.  That was the birthing of my book, “BECAUSE GOD SAID” You Are Very Special“.  Psalm 139 is my favorite psalm.   I am in awe of God! His Word is powerful– He spoke creation into existence.  And yet, He longs to have a relationship with us.  He knows and loves us intimately.

I believe this book will touch the heart of every child.  When I read it to my elderly mom, the first time she cried.  It deeply touched her heart.  I pray the simple truth of God’s Word through this book will be planted in the heart of every child; young and old alike.

Sadie Clem, the illustrator, was sixteen when she took on the challenge of bringing this book to life.  Sadie did a beautiful job.  Her colorful illustrations engage and captivate each child’s attention throughout the whole book.  A cute little frog is hidden on each page.  Maya, my granddaughter, named him “Froggy McButterpants”.  Children love searching for Froggy McButterpants!

This book makes a great gift for a MOPPET Department, a church nursery, a grandma and grandpa, a baby shower gift, etc.  BECAUSE GOD SAID, “You Are Very Special” can be ordered through Amazon.  Or stop by on Saturday at the Craft Bazaar and get a signed copy or two from me.

Have a great week.  Open up the Bible and read Psalm 139.  It may become your favorite psalm, too!  God Bless!



God Has Given Us His Parental Job Description. Do You know What It Says?

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Me and my granddaughter Esther.
Me and my granddaughter Esther.

Three weeks ago I went in for my DOT physical to get recertified to drive school bus.  Everything looked good.  I read the small print toward the bottom of the eye chart, my blood pressure was down and I could walk and chew gum at the same time.  I was daydreaming about my larger paychecks this year when the doctor threw a bucket of ice-cold water over me.  Because of my stroke, he would not recertify me for at least one year.  In an instant my world turned upside down.

It was time for an attitude check.  When I flexed my trust muscle with God, would it droop limply like a soggy noodle, or would it imitate a body builder’s bicep and erupt like Mt. Saint Helens?  Would I become angry and bitter, or would I turn to God and become better?

In my last post, http://desiretoinspire.life/parental-motto-wear-gods-armor/ I talked about the challenges parents encounter in the face of conflicting ideas from professionals on how to raise their children.  Also, many grandparents find themselves either raising their grandchildren or wondering how to be the best support system for their adult children who have kids of their own.

My advice was to, “Put on the full armor of God…so you can resist the enemy whenever he attacks.” (Ephesians 6) Paul tells Christians to prepare, because it isn’t a matter of ‘if’ they will come under spiritual attack but ‘when’.  He is warning them and us to be ready.

So every day you do your best to faithfully submit your family over to God.  But, as a parent or grandparent, what happens when life throws you a curveball?  What is your reaction when Satan unleashes the full wrath of the hounds from hell upon you and your family?  How would your attitude be towards God if:

  1. You have an uncontrollable, intolerable, strong-willed three-year old who won’t behave no matter how much you pray, reason with, spank, give timeouts, threaten, and pray some more.
  2. The doctor gives a diagnoses for your nine-year old’s neck pain as Leukemia.
  3. You receive a phone call saying that your teenager, while high on drugs and alcohol, ran a stop sign and killed another driver.
  4. Your son is arrested on rape charges while away at college.
  5. You find your sixteen-year old granddaughter unconscious, on the bathroom floor.  An empty bottle of your sleeping pills lie beside her on the floor.

As parents, our job is to prepare our children to grow up to be responsible, independent and caring adults.  Ultimately though, your children bear the responsibility to accumulate the teaching they have received and apply it to their lives.  So what’s the best way we can prepare them?

My son-in-law, Matt, was asked to coach 7th grade boys basketball and he asked me to help him.  I love basketball and coaching so I accepted his offer.  Seventeen boys tried out to make the twelve-man roster.  While we decided not to cut any of the kids, we made it clear that the bottom five players would not receive much playing time.

So for three days Matt and I taught the kids the proper way to shoot, dribble, pass and rebound.  We explained the importance of teamwork, hustle and a positive attitude.  At the end of the third practice, we took each boy aside and told him if they made the top twelve.

During this process it was important that Matt and I were prepared.  It was our job to know the proper way to instruct the boys on how to shoot, dribble, pass and rebound the basketball.  We had to model the proper technique for the kids to imitate. If we had displayed a lackadaisical attitude in our coaching, how could we expect anything more from our players?

I was pleased with each boys good attitude.  They all took full responsibility for their position on the team.  Does it always turn out this way…no, not always.  But it sure is nice when it does.

The same principles apply to our parenting.  Just as a coach’s job is to prepare his players so they have the best opportunity to win each game, it’s our job as parents to prepare our children to have the best opportunity to succeed as adults in the game of life.  Your job description includes:

  1. Developing a Godly Character:  Examples of this is found in Galatians 5:22, “…the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.”
  2. Valuing Relationship: The heart of God is relationship.  He created us for relationship with Him and with each other.  After Adam and Eve sinned, a barrier was placed between God’s relationship toward man.  God considered His relationship with man to be so valuable, He allowed His only son to die for our sins so that this important relationship could be restored.  “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, and mind…and love your neighbor as much as you love yourself.”  Matthew 22: 37-39
  3. Acknowledging Responsibility: Responsibility is understanding that only you are accountable for your own actions.  This main ingredient of maturity leads to self-control, confidence from making good decisions, and the freedom to say no to bad decisions.
  4. Accepting of the Realities of this World: Jesus said, “Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows…”  This world is a harsh place to live.  If you don’t believe me, sit down in front of your T.V. and turn on the local and world news.  What is your attitude toward the truth spewed out from the worlds point of view.  But Jesus ended his above statement with, “…but cheer up, for I have overcome the world.”  John 16:33
  5. Showing Grace: Grace is showing mercy and kindness to others when they don’t deserve it.  God is our ultimate role-model for grace.  Romans 5:20-21 says, “The Ten Commandments were given so that all could see the extent of their failure to obey God’s laws.  But the more we see our sinfulness, the more we see God’s abounding grace forgiving us.  Before, sin ruled over all men (women and children) and brought them to death, but now God’s kindness rules instead, giving us right standing with God and resulting in eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.”

Did you notice that your job description doesn’t involve you telling your children about these principles.  These five principles are meant for the parents and grandparents.  The best way to prepare our children for adulthood is to model these principles themselves.

To be a hero to all children, let us heed the advice given to us by Jesus’ brother.  “Do not merely listen to the word and so deceive yourselves.  Do what it says.”  James 1:22   Amen!















What Do We Dwell On These Days?

[ninja_form id=4]dsc_0732mud puddle girlWhere do you dwell?   What do you find yourself dwelling on these days?

Dwell means:  1) to live or reside  2) to dwell on something is to think or speak about it at great length 3)to settle down, to abide, to stay.

Our world is getting to be an unsettling place to dwell.  Evil is permeating our world:  police officers and citizens are being shot, school and mall shootings are more prevalent, and terrorist attacks are becoming too common.

As the presidential election process winds down, it’s disturbing to see how our candidates of choice disrespect each other.  America is weary of the political charades we have been witnessing. Ideally, potential presidential nominees of our country would be of good character, integrity and modelling how they would best serve our country. They ought to set a good example of how to treat others and earn our trust.

If my grandkids watched any of the presidential debates, I would explain, “What you see here is demoralizing, immature and egotistical!  This is the opposite of how God wants us to treat others and how leaders should lead.”

This morning I opened my Bible and read Psalm 91, “He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty.  I will say of the Lord, He is my refuge and my fortress, my God in whom I trust.”

We are reminded to dwell in the shelter of the Most High and to rest in the shadow of the Almighty.  I am learning to trust God.  I am learning His promises are true.  I am learning He is in control and I am not.

May we learn to surrender to His will and purposes and let Him become our refuge and our fortress–our God in whom we trust.

Colossians 3:16a “Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly….”

May we seek to know Him more, abide in Him and rest in Him.  He is worthy of our trust!  We live in a shaky world.  I’m thankful our Lord God is unshakable.

IN WHOM WE TRUST (CCLI#3356416)                                                    Words and music by Karen L. Carlson  Copyright 1993                       Sung by Josie Colby                                                                                  Composed by Richard Crouch (Show & Tell Family Projects)